Anger swells, and then recedes, replaced by guilt. Then, more anger. And then sadness. These feelings flow in waves, like the tide. It’s just so senseless. And unfair. All humans have the potential to shine light, but God grants some souls extra wattage. K’s light was extraordinary. And she was just a child on the brink of living...The world needed K. The world needed a million Ks...
Justice is blind, and her judgments are fair, impartial, and moral. The blindfolded Justice holds a balance in one hand and a sword in the other. On Justice's scales, she weighs evidence against truth; Justice's blindfold shows her impartiality; and... Continue Reading →
"As Christians who speak to the necessity of accountability, transparency, and the pursuit of truth and right, should we not be the first to submit ourselves to the same processes we call for secular institutions to follow? And if the sexual assault of children is not important enough to motivate us to pursue these biblical truths, what will be?"
"Jesus Christ does not need your protection; he needs your obedience. Obedience means that you pursue justice and you stand up for the oppressed and you stand up for the victimized, and you tell the truth about the evil of sexual assault and the evil of covering it up . . . [I]f we’re not speaking out when it costs, then [the gospel] doesn’t matter to us enough."
Pluralistic ignorance causes the bystander effect, and it creates bystander apathy. Click to watch the video explaining this phenomenon and to read 25 ways to reduce the bystander effect and help victims of sexual violence . . .
Sexual violence survivors from within the church join in a harmonizing chorus, reminding us abuse is in the #ChurchToo . Read their experiences here...
To the third party participants who made themselves participants to abuse, you get no pass. We unapologetically draw a bold line in the sand. Read more...
As I write this post, more women are coming forward with allegations of sexual misconduct against film mogul Harvey Weinstein. The story is gaining traction. We say it's about time! No more cultures of acceptance. No more silently compliant and... Continue Reading →
"'If we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …'"
January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Read to learn more.
"Reflection and experience are tools of change. Reflection keeps us from being defeated by our pasts, and it gives us the power to shape our futures."
Survivors, if you're living in your own Egypt, if you're in a community enabling abusers and silencing abuse, and if your soul is crying out, know that God hears you. You don't have to stay in Egypt anymore. You have a voice. You may feel like Moses did. He worried over what words to say, he worried his words wouldn't be received, and he worried he wouldn't be believed...God gave Moses the right words to exit Egypt, and He can give you the right words, too. He can set your soul free.
Our design isn't accidental. We are damaged with purpose. By reframing our perspectives of ourselves, we allow defects to localize our light. Then, like the butterfly, we can scatter our energy into the world.