Justice is blind, and her judgments are fair, impartial, and moral. The blindfolded Justice holds a balance in one hand and a sword in the other. On Justice's scales, she weighs evidence against truth; Justice's blindfold shows her impartiality; and... Continue Reading →
How does something like the Catholic abuse cover up occur? How do societies ever allow evil acts to become "norms"? Two reasons: fear and power. More precisely, a weak mind is fearful of worldly powers, superficial hierarchies, social authorities. It is fearful of upsetting the status quo, even when that status quo is unholy. But God doesn't give the spirit of fear. He gives the spirit of power and sound minds...
Trust is precious and fragile. Every human relationship requires some degree of gifted trust. All social contracts are built on trust. When we trust others, we lower ourselves. We expose our throats believing the other party would never cut us at the jugular. We depend on them, and they on us. We expect mutual loyalty, mutual love, mutual fellowship, mutual support...
"Jesus Christ does not need your protection; he needs your obedience. Obedience means that you pursue justice and you stand up for the oppressed and you stand up for the victimized, and you tell the truth about the evil of sexual assault and the evil of covering it up . . . [I]f we’re not speaking out when it costs, then [the gospel] doesn’t matter to us enough."
Pluralistic ignorance causes the bystander effect, and it creates bystander apathy. Click to watch the video explaining this phenomenon and to read 25 ways to reduce the bystander effect and help victims of sexual violence . . .
Sexual violence survivors from within the church join in a harmonizing chorus, reminding us abuse is in the #ChurchToo . Read their experiences here...
When we willfully look at reality through opaque glass, we purposefully distort the truth, defame the abused, and silence democracy. What does it take to silence democracy? Not much. The recipe includes a little disregard for truth, a few omissions... Continue Reading →
To the third party participants who made themselves participants to abuse, you get no pass. We unapologetically draw a bold line in the sand. Read more...
"'If we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …'"
"Among their most dangerous features are a callous disregard for the rights of others and a propensity for violating norms. They can charm and manipulate others for their own gain, conning with no regard for anyone's feelings." What does this "callous disregard" look like? Here's a glimpse into the mind of a predator.
Survivors, if you're living in your own Egypt, if you're in a community enabling abusers and silencing abuse, and if your soul is crying out, know that God hears you. You don't have to stay in Egypt anymore. You have a voice. You may feel like Moses did. He worried over what words to say, he worried his words wouldn't be received, and he worried he wouldn't be believed...God gave Moses the right words to exit Egypt, and He can give you the right words, too. He can set your soul free.
Why, 300 years later, are we still warning young girls to be careful? Why aren't we tracking down the wolves and holding them accountable? Why aren't we making it unequivocally clear that preying on others will not be tolerated? Maybe it's because these "gentle wolves" are so cleverly camouflaged among us that we, like Red Riding Hood's own mother and grandmother, can't see them for the ruthless predators they are. Or, maybe it's that we don't want to see them for who they are.
"I heard a young, brave woman speak about the sexual assaults she endured as a teenager at the hands of her teacher. She said this about abusers: 'They will use our silence to kill us and then say that we enjoyed it.' She spoke so matter-of-factly absent any fear. I envied her freedom, her courage, her strength. It was then I realized I would never be free from you until I discarded the chains of silence and released myself from the weight of your deeds....this shame is yours to carry, not mine."
Abuse that occurs in educational or religious settings can send trauma reverberating through entire communities, and it's important for both direct and indirect victims to receive positive support in the wake of such events.