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THE LESSER LIGHTS

WALKING IN LIGHT, EMBRACING TRUTH, CONQUERING DARKNESS

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Sexual Assault Prevention

“‘Only’ Touching”: A Woman’s Worth in a Culture of Acceptance

$1 per grope--that's how much a woman is worth. Too often, victims are questioned, humiliated, and further exposed only for their perpetrators to get off for less money than a cup of coffee ... it is unacceptable for sexual battery to cost less than a cup of coffee at Starbucks ... less than a fine for littering ... less than the penalty for spraying graffiti on the side of a building. Sentences like Judge Nauhaus' communicate females are worth less ... less than the dirt and grass beside our roadways ... less than chattel.

God Doesn’t Widen Home Plate, Why Would We: 17″ Standard

"'If we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …'"

The Ruins

The ruins / Staining hearts / And Crumbling Covenants

Sexual Assault & The Law: National Stalking Awareness Month

January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Read to learn more.

‘Dear Victim,’ A Letter

"Among their most dangerous features are a callous disregard for the rights of others and a propensity for violating norms. They can charm and manipulate others for their own gain, conning with no regard for anyone's feelings." What does this "callous disregard" look like? Here's a glimpse into the mind of a predator.

The Art of Reflection

"Reflection and experience are tools of change. Reflection keeps us from being defeated by our pasts, and it gives us the power to shape our futures."

Out of Egypt: The Landscape of Christian Legalism & Sexual Abuse

Survivors, if you're living in your own Egypt, if you're in a community enabling abusers and silencing abuse, and if your soul is crying out, know that God hears you. You don't have to stay in Egypt anymore. You have a voice. You may feel like Moses did. He worried over what words to say, he worried his words wouldn't be received, and he worried he wouldn't be believed...God gave Moses the right words to exit Egypt, and He can give you the right words, too. He can set your soul free.

The Gentle Wolves are the Most Dangerous of All – The Predatory Aggressives

Why, 300 years later, are we still warning young girls to be careful? Why aren't we tracking down the wolves and holding them accountable? Why aren't we making it unequivocally clear that preying on others will not be tolerated? Maybe it's because these "gentle wolves" are so cleverly camouflaged among us that we, like Red Riding Hood's own mother and grandmother, can't see them for the ruthless predators they are. Or, maybe it's that we don't want to see them for who they are.

The Butterfly’s Wings: Perfectly Defective

Our design isn't accidental. We are damaged with purpose. By reframing our perspectives of ourselves, we allow defects to localize our light. Then, like the butterfly, we can scatter our energy into the world.

Bibliotherapy: Healing Eleanor Rigby…Classic Literature & Universal Experiences

"I found kinship in the pages of Mary Wollstonecraft, Mary Shelley, Virginia Woolf, and Kate Chopin. From Hardy and Hawthorne, I learned that experiences like mine transcended time and culture. I was not alone after all, and my experience was no tragedy. It was unfortunate, but it was universal. Women had universally survived such experiences since early biblical times. I wasn't alien, after all. I was among survivors, warriors."

Highly Sensitive Survivors: Reclaiming the Key to Your Confidence

"Embrace your strength and beauty. There's nothing high-minded about having both a mind and a heart. There's no shame in owning your strengths and sharing them with the world. This indifferent world needs your empathy--it needs you."

Kicking Off the New Year & Old Shoes

"Each day we lace up our true selves in the 'shoes' that best meet that day's mood, crowd, and occasion. Some days we wear patent leather personalities. Some days we wear combat boots. We bind up who we really are in order to portray who we think others want us to be. But isn't it freeing to take off your shoes...and go barefoot?"

Dear Abuser (My Letter to You)

"I heard a young, brave woman speak about the sexual assaults she endured as a teenager at the hands of her teacher. She said this about abusers: 'They will use our silence to kill us and then say that we enjoyed it.' She spoke so matter-of-factly absent any fear. I envied her freedom, her courage, her strength. It was then I realized I would never be free from you until I discarded the chains of silence and released myself from the weight of your deeds....this shame is yours to carry, not mine."

Melted Dole Whip & Our Family’s Coping With Community Trauma

Abuse that occurs in educational or religious settings can send trauma reverberating through entire communities, and it's important for both direct and indirect victims to receive positive support in the wake of such events.

Sexual Assault, Apple Pie, & Making America ‘Great’

"America's greatness depends on all of us, collectively. It depends on each of us, individually. America's greatness isn't political. It's personal."

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