Echo chambers, "fake news," & "alternative facts" are defaming, and defrauding in epic numbers, ultimately derailing democracy--and, Americans, we are to blame. (Part 1 of a two-part article. Read Part 2 here.) Y'all, seriously. Sigh . . . Are you... Continue Reading →
To the third party participants who made themselves participants to abuse, you get no pass. We unapologetically draw a bold line in the sand. Read more...
Have you ever bought a beautiful red apple from the grocery store, thinking, from its appearance, it was going to be juicy and sweet? Then, gotten home, washed it, and bit into it dry bitterness instead of succulent sweet juices? Yeah, not all fruits are good...
When we lose autonomy over ourselves, we become internally unbalanced. When others silence our voice, we cannot directly communicate, set boundaries, or restore internal order. So, instead of dealing with the real conflict, we war within ourselves. Luckily, we don't have to live in an unbalanced state. We can achieve restoration, and we can be at peace with ourselves. But first we must understand the forces tipping the scale...
Saltwater pearls are considered rare and precious gems. They grow in mollusk shells along beds formed from extinct, eroded volcanos. One single pearl grows for years, facing threatening predators, crabs, and parasites. The few that survive emerge as beautiful smooth, translucent round layers reflecting light ... you are a pearl. A pearl of great price.
Rooted in dignity, we can act with integrity. Integrity is more than doing the "right" thing when no one is watching. Integrity is transparency, authenticity. It is owning our flaws. It is inspecting ourselves, our behaviors, our motives. Integrity is acting from a place of personal dignity, acting with respect to the dignity of others. Integrity is seeing others have worth simply because they ARE.
"'If we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …'"
The ruins / Staining hearts / And Crumbling Covenants
I once taught writing. Writing in theory and writing in practice are very different things. I'm certainly no linguist like Shakespeare. Shucks, I wouldn't pretend to possess an ounce of Stephen King's I-crank-out-a-novel-a-week talent. But as Robin Williams (as Professor... Continue Reading →
"Reflection and experience are tools of change. Reflection keeps us from being defeated by our pasts, and it gives us the power to shape our futures."
Survivors, if you're living in your own Egypt, if you're in a community enabling abusers and silencing abuse, and if your soul is crying out, know that God hears you. You don't have to stay in Egypt anymore. You have a voice. You may feel like Moses did. He worried over what words to say, he worried his words wouldn't be received, and he worried he wouldn't be believed...God gave Moses the right words to exit Egypt, and He can give you the right words, too. He can set your soul free.
"Each day we lace up our true selves in the 'shoes' that best meet that day's mood, crowd, and occasion. Some days we wear patent leather personalities. Some days we wear combat boots. We bind up who we really are in order to portray who we think others want us to be. But isn't it freeing to take off your shoes...and go barefoot?"
"I heard a young, brave woman speak about the sexual assaults she endured as a teenager at the hands of her teacher. She said this about abusers: 'They will use our silence to kill us and then say that we enjoyed it.' She spoke so matter-of-factly absent any fear. I envied her freedom, her courage, her strength. It was then I realized I would never be free from you until I discarded the chains of silence and released myself from the weight of your deeds....this shame is yours to carry, not mine."