We don't have to live in fear, for God is with us in triumph and tragedy. Facing our brokenness is an epic journey of sorts, into the abyss of pain. But He catches every tear, and He never leaves us alone. No tear is cried in vain. From our pain, He creates purpose. We can rest knowing, not our will, but His will be done.
Trust is precious and fragile. Every human relationship requires some degree of gifted trust. All social contracts are built on trust. When we trust others, we lower ourselves. We expose our throats believing the other party would never cut us at the jugular. We depend on them, and they on us. We expect mutual loyalty, mutual love, mutual fellowship, mutual support...
As Christians around the world set up their decorations, take part in holiday celebrations, and giftwrap presents, we should all pause and reflect on what it means to be a worthy disciple of Jesus Christ. Read more...
When we willfully look at reality through opaque glass, we purposefully distort the truth, defame the abused, and silence democracy. What does it take to silence democracy? Not much. The recipe includes a little disregard for truth, a few omissions... Continue Reading →
When we lose autonomy over ourselves, we become internally unbalanced. When others silence our voice, we cannot directly communicate, set boundaries, or restore internal order. So, instead of dealing with the real conflict, we war within ourselves. Luckily, we don't have to live in an unbalanced state. We can achieve restoration, and we can be at peace with ourselves. But first we must understand the forces tipping the scale...
Saltwater pearls are considered rare and precious gems. They grow in mollusk shells along beds formed from extinct, eroded volcanos. One single pearl grows for years, facing threatening predators, crabs, and parasites. The few that survive emerge as beautiful smooth, translucent round layers reflecting light ... you are a pearl. A pearl of great price.
Rooted in dignity, we can act with integrity. Integrity is more than doing the "right" thing when no one is watching. Integrity is transparency, authenticity. It is owning our flaws. It is inspecting ourselves, our behaviors, our motives. Integrity is acting from a place of personal dignity, acting with respect to the dignity of others. Integrity is seeing others have worth simply because they ARE.
"'If we fail to hold our spouses and our children to the same standards, if we are unwilling or unable to provide a consequence when they do not meet the standard; and if our schools and churches and our government fail to hold themselves accountable to those they serve, there is but one thing to look forward to …'"
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"Among their most dangerous features are a callous disregard for the rights of others and a propensity for violating norms. They can charm and manipulate others for their own gain, conning with no regard for anyone's feelings." What does this "callous disregard" look like? Here's a glimpse into the mind of a predator.
Survivors, if you're living in your own Egypt, if you're in a community enabling abusers and silencing abuse, and if your soul is crying out, know that God hears you. You don't have to stay in Egypt anymore. You have a voice. You may feel like Moses did. He worried over what words to say, he worried his words wouldn't be received, and he worried he wouldn't be believed...God gave Moses the right words to exit Egypt, and He can give you the right words, too. He can set your soul free.
"I heard a young, brave woman speak about the sexual assaults she endured as a teenager at the hands of her teacher. She said this about abusers: 'They will use our silence to kill us and then say that we enjoyed it.' She spoke so matter-of-factly absent any fear. I envied her freedom, her courage, her strength. It was then I realized I would never be free from you until I discarded the chains of silence and released myself from the weight of your deeds....this shame is yours to carry, not mine."